Today, I just feel like talking about anger management. Not because i’m angry, but i see it as a serious issue sometimes. Because whenever I see someone got angry and yelling because of minor matters, I feel sooo disturbed. Although it’s not me who got yelled at, but somehow I got affected.
So, why some people got easily annoyed and angry, while some others manage to seem cool and relaxed despite dealing with annoying, irritating, and disturbing matter?
Here are some theories.
No.1, the angry people feel that they’re powerless. By yelling and put on an angry face, they thought they might look powerful and intimidating. Yes, it is intimidating, but it doesn’t actually give them power. And this explains why sometimes, those powerful and wiser and highly respected people rarely seem annoyed or irritated by some unimportant minor matters.Instead, they look cool and calmer. Some are even down-to-earth. They don’t find it difficult to forgive and let go when things go wrong.
No.2, to cover their own defect. These angry people also have one habit, which is to point finger to someone else whenever any undesired event occurs. That’s to say, when they slip, they tend to blame the floor. When they forget things, they tend to say,”Why didn’t you remind me?”, when they do mistakes, they’ll say ” You didn’t tell me earlier! How am I supposed to know??”, and the blaming goes on and on. The thing is, they can’t accept that things go wrong, and someone must be blamed for it.
And no.3, they’re just poor unhappy people.
Well, maybe there are a lot more theories I just don’t manage to come up with, but I do know one thing. One secret key for anger management. INNER PEACE. With high emotional and spritual qoutient along with adequate or high intelligent quotient, someone can afford to achieve this inner peace. And when inner peace is achieved, there’s nothing in this world that can hurt your feeling without your consent. Nothing can make you feel miserable despite all terrible things that happen to you. And thus,you’ll be less angry.
And it is important to know, that anger is a feeling. Thus, when a feeling comes,
it can’t be denied. BUT, it certainly can be managed and controlled. Why waste your energy getting angry and grumpy?
Do not let your anger conquer you. Believe that everyone of us has the power to resist. Let’s try ok? We’re all wishing for a harmonious community afterall.